As to her comments, she is clearly trying to guilt you into giving her a better deal. Ignore her comments and listen to your lawyer. Stick to your guns, your mantra is "let the judge decide, then."
I guess I should expect her to give me a guilt trip like this from time to time. Its just that every conversation is about our D or her telling me what my girls schedule is going to be. This is expected, but it wears on me.
Let the judge decide comes out of my mouth frequently these days. I believe it is easier for me to be told what to do by a judge then by my STBXW. I really hope that I do not have to stand in front of a judge and that we can come to an agreement on everything.
Frank,
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Funny thing how our S's decide to throw out their vows, spew on us, then...they get ?angry during the D process?
I am not sure that I would use the word funny, but I do understand what you mean. Everything that is going on is occurring because....well this is the bed that my W laid. Now she doesn't like how it is going and for some reason it is all my fault. So Yes based of my experience you can expect your W to stay angry through the D process if it comes to that for you.
I think when things do not go my W's way she views it as me holding her back somehow. I guess she cannot see that I need to protect myself and girls. If that means her plans for riding off into the sunset are put off for a little-bit....oh-well.
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You will ALWAYS have your girls
I know... I LOVE every moment that I have with them.
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Classic advice...don't get dragged into any emotional arguments and truly stick to doing what YOU think is best for you and your kids....a N.U.T., right?
Yes it is....despite how my W is treating me I will always do what I think is best for my girls, even if a decision benefits my W a bit. My girls are my biggest priority and what ever I can do to raise them to be the awesome women that they are going to be I will do.
Well my DD5 now knows that Mommy and Daddy are going to be living separately from each other. My W took it upon herself to inform my D of this today and from what my W tells me she took it alright. I am planning on bringing her out tomorrow night for a date with Daddy, it will be interesting to hear what she has to say. My W is concerned that I am going to say something to my D that will effect her in some way. She said that she is going to have to trust that I do not cross any boundaries that she has put down. Does my W forget: who is the one having an A, who is the one lying and deceiving, who is the one tearing apart our family? I think she at times feels like she is in my shoes....or maybe she is just trying to be controlling and realizing that she has no control over me anymore.
Now for a little good news. I received an email today that my D5 can play soccer this fall in a local league. She has been asking about it for awhile and because of the hecticness of my life I missed the sign up day for two different leagues. I put her name on the waiting list for both of them and hoped for the best. Well the two days that I was told I would hear something by if she got in have come and gone. It really broke my heart more then it did my D's that I could not get her in. Well today I was able to get her in. Do not know why or how...don't really care accept that she is in now. It should be fun watching her learn a new sport again.
