I have to agree with W2S here. You may be doing your best to distance yourself from your W and her problems right now, but I think sooner or later she will be standing on your doorstep and you will have some very hard choices too make.
I'm afraid this is going to get a lot more complicated for you.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford