We are coparents. We are roomates. We are nice to each other, but we are at best ILYBIANILWY. She never touches me first. We have not kissed in at least 6 years. We have sex about 8 times a year. SHe is ALWAYS doing something, that is what her whole life is about, keeping busy. Sex is the LAST thing she ever wants to do. Its like it can actually be work for her. Essentially, she is spending most of her time focused on things that will in no way make her marriage better.