"The beatings will continue until morale improves"

[faithisbelieving]

Thanks ISLH. I have decided that there isn't a good way to participate in my W's 40th Bday party for several reasons:
-to allow her family the freedom from being pressured by my presence
-to give her father to chance to enjoy her party since I don't believe he has the maturity to do it with me there
-for legal reasons..my L told me to stay clear of him

I agree...I will buy her a card..nothing mushy...and have the kids buy her a 40th ...uh something. I think a gift card to Victoria's Secret, or, Express, or The Limited is the best way to go.

Funny, my W called me today. My kids went to camp this summer almost for nothing. My BIL, the Franciscan Brother, used to be an associate camp director, so, my kids got in for almost nothing. We donated a few hundred dollars. Last year, I DID take up a contribution for their needy kids fund in honor of 'Pavarotti's' wife, who passed away. I collected almost 3K for them.

My W called to ask me how much I can contribute for tips...for the C's and the director. She wanted 50 times 2 and 200 for the camp director. I told her that I thought it was high and that 'we had expenses coming up'. She told me that she was going to donate her paycheck then (about $300). I told her that I would meet her halfway when she got home (split it). I think that's fair. In essence, really, I am paying for it anyway.

Her other call was to see if I was coming home on time today...she rescheduled her date out with the girls tonight. She told me that one of them couldn't get a baby sitter last night. I don't ask...won't pursue. I"ll be honest tho', if she went out of her way to have ME watch the kids and I found out it was a 'date', I'd be furious. But then gain....what really matters at this point?

My kids. Right.

Strength and honor.

FIB