Plank/WAW, thread 2

[dlt1]

Good for you! Stand up for your feelings. Don't regret that. Cool and confident is definitley a good thing. Let her sit with it.

Need some advice:
If we talk later, I'd like to ask her if one of the reasons she's holding back is that she's spun out the worst case scenario in her mind that we'll try to get our M back together and I'll end up telling her no.
H I like asking her, but try a little different approach. Assume thsi is the case and say something more like:
"I understand the huge risk you would be taking to work on our M with me. After the pain I have caused, this is no small favor I am asking for you to allow yourself to be vulnerable to that again. I am committed to you, and understand why you would be hesitant. I'm here for you."
You don't always have to ask a question to get an answer. I think thsi approach would be a way to validate her feelings. She'll tell you if you're wrong! Just my opinion here. Wish I coudl say that it is teh best approach.
Wishing you luck,