Need advice on WAW with OM

[svejk]

I have a question regarding WAW's guilt over OM during our separation.

I avoid relationship talk whenever we do get together but she consistently brings up that she is ashamed over her relationship with OM. She believes that our relationship cannot be repaired because she doesn't want a relationship with me because I know about the OM.

She believes our relationship is forever tainted by what happened with the OM. She says she wants a fresh start with someone exactly like me but without the history of her having a relationship with the other man. I know her well enough to believe she really means this and is not just saying it as an excuse to end our relationship.

I can she that she is guilty and ashamed over the OM and it is a roadblock in her mind to us working on our relationship.

So, I'm not sure how, or if, I should respond to this. To this point I have only told her that while it hurt me, it really doesn't matter to me. What happened while we were separated honestly doesn't matter to me. It certainly hurts tremendously but I know if I can gain her love back I can easily forgive her, and I can say with certainty that I will not make an issue of it.

Does anyone have any experience with overcoming this obstacle, or have any idea how I should respond to my wife?

Thanks,
Svejk