Am I seperated? Looking for support/advice...

[whatsyourpoint]

Hi,

There are a number of positive things that I read in catching up on your sitch.

1. H did see C, told you about it, it kept him in the house and he made another appt.

2. read your GAL efforts. Bravo!

3. not initiating R talk

4. keeping your space - that is the hardest thing for me, to be patient, to keep my hands to myself, to hold back until my wife reaches for me. It's started to happen, and that makes it hard not to revert to old ways. I know our sitches are opposite in this way (who has the high vs. low interest in sex), but H is at least as confused as you are. It's going to take time for H to recognize all the work you've done and what he still probably feels.

As far as holding back the tears. I agree w/ CVA keep them in check when around H, they don't help his opinion of you.

I agree w/ Heimlich that you should probably make H wonder where you are.

Having any conversation with H is likely to be difficult for a while, but hang in there, and don't get too excited when even a trivial conversation does. This is a long process, and you have turned so many things around already.

Good luck. Be strong.