"The beatings will continue until morale improves"

[I_Still_Love_Him]

FIB,

As for whether to get her a gift or not, I don't think any of us really know how the MLCer thinks. Sometimes the LBS is damned if they do or damned if they don't.

It seems to be the pattern right now with your wife. When you include her, she'll say she's only doing it for the kids' sake and when you don't she says you're excluding her. It all depends on whether is is in the tunnel or peaking out.

Maybe you can get a card and gift from you and the kids as a family but of course this is only a suggestion. Do what feels right for you. You are still together and can still show her you care.