Thanks guys...You all are great for a pick me up. I just posted on YOYO thread that I was listening to a CD and it was talking about fears. Lost of love is the hardest fear to over come. He said you have to convince yourself to stay positive and Get a Long with out Love. Get rid of all negative thoughts and bring out the best in yourself. I told him the other day you know our family is a strong family no matter what we have gone thru and if we get a divorce it will never be the same. We are really close to our boys but they still stand behind me which is nice. He just put his glasses on so I couldn't see his eyes. He is determined to move on with out me. She has such a hold on him and everyone has warned him but I'm not going to pickup the pieces like I did last time. He beg me to stay last time but he is on his own. Some of his brothers are saying if he isn't any smarter than that he deserves her. My one SIL said I can believe he is that stupid she use to be friends with OW and knows her well. She has even talked to H and told him about her. But you know she might be the best thing that ever happened to him. He told me the other day that we were just bad for each other.
I know his family will always be there. This family is a big family and a strong family that are close. It will be a hard adjustment. The kids and their cousins are all very close and do alot together. The adults are all in a range of different business so you are always dealing with them. They have always been there for me.
I even told my H the other day that we had both grown up alot and we should think about this before we threw it all away. He said he had been waiting for me and now it was to late. He said he hadn't been the best H and did I want to spend the rest o f mylife like that or would I rather leave and be happy. He has his mind set but he wants me to get the divorce. I think he has been trying to get me to weaken and file for the last few years by being a jerk than he would be nice. Emotional black mail. My Youngest S told me the other day that my MIL and FIL wouldn't let me leave. I live about a 1/4 mile away and help them alot. We live on there property. We had sold out place 2 years ago so we move there for a little while and we are still there.
yoyo Thank goodness for good friends..I to have good friends and good SIL's . I think they would do away with the OW if they come across her. Mattie You are right. We Will Survive!!!!!We have to be positive and not let negative thoughts in...Thanks guys for being here. I appreciate the hugs. I think I miss the hugs that I used to get all the time. So i appreciate them
