You are doing well. This is the constant roller coaster thing. He gets close to you and then pulls back. I can not tell you how many times I see that on here about being nervous around them. I feel the same way and I have been with him a lifetime! They seem like alien strangers. Because they are. The hardest thing is patience. I always want things fixed right now, right away.

Try and focus on what is going right and repeat that. You are going to counseling together. That is a positive. He is not talking about divorce. That is another positive. Try and not let him see that you are upset about the dinner out. He wants to play baseball, no matter how stupid it seems to us. Could you call him instead of texting, and nicely ask him if he would be willing to take you to the airport? Tell him that it would help money wise, not leaving the car etc? Forget dinner. The only problem is that he will have to pick you up and that might be what is going on. Too emotional for him. If he says no, just be cheerful and say well thanks anyhow. Really hard. But you can do this. I have been sick to my stomach so often. I am not a nervous person, outgoing and fun and now I know what chronic anxiety is. I have never taken any meds and I am thinking that over.

Just hang in there. It seems long but believe me it is not. Do not get impatient and lose sight of the big picture. I am trying to do the same.

My H calls here last night all excited he wants to have his company send me all the info on health insurance. He sent it to me email and no way can I afford Cobra at 428.00 a month. He wants to send some info on other options. HR is helping him, great, all those women in there helping him. My H is the boyish type women like to help, good looking, slim and well dressed, younger looking than his age. Too bad they really can't see the angry side, the mean side. The call did not go well. He called the Pro se law place and wants us to go in for a free consult. He is nuts. He also said he asked the lawyer if he could just transfer the mortgage to me. More nutty stuff. But he said he wants to call our bank and just see if I will qualify for a mortgage based on the mainenance and all the equity in the house.
Go ahead I said. He gets so angry with me. He wants to come over and fill out the paperwork to file. I probably should not have said this, but I told him why, we can fill them out at the courthouse and them file. I realized he may have just wanted fill them out and not do anything. I asked for the brokerage stmts and he gets really angry. I said well if I have to find a mortgage, he cuts me off, it's too soon for that. He was so nasty, angry cutting me off, telling me how things are going to be. They know not what they are doing! My H has some serious anger problems. I need no contact with him, as he is using me to get angry. I will email you!