Are we piecing yet?

[Have Faith]

editmarie - Thank you for your input. I do feel that I have been GALing, as I do a lot without him. I am with you on the decision that I can not do anything about the A. It is up to him and I'm trying not to say anything about the A or the OW. It can be so hard.

My family lives in another state, so I don't talk to them a lot. He really does not have a family outside of mine. This is one thing that I think has helped us. He loves my family and would really have a difficult time leaving them. I have stopped talking about what I'm doing with my friends, as they don't understand and think that I should just get it all over with quickly if he isn't going to give her up.

Saffie - To answer your questions

Did your H tell you she says that they are the perfect fit or did that message come direct to you from her?

I read this in an e-mail that she wrote to him about 3 weeks ago.

Do you think that maybe she has someone else in her life aswell

No, I don't think that she has someone else in her life. She is head over heals in love with my husband. It is obvious by her e-mails.

Could she be worried about the age difference between herself and your H so she doesn't want to publicly socialise with him

The age difference does not bother her. She says she likes older men. Besides, it has been my husband who keeps her in the closet. Before he moved back home, they would go out to dinner, to sporting events and the theater together. Now that he is home, he doesn't appear to go anywhere with her. He is with me so much of the time, I don't see how he could spend much time with her, except maybe at her place.

It does seem strange and also that maybe for your H the A is beginning to run it's course.

I pray that this is the case. He keeps telling me, just give him time. He is always telling me what a wonderful and beautiful women I am. That all of this is his fault and not mine. That there isn't anything that I could do different.

I just keep telling myself that the only person I can change is me. I try to be very happy and in a good mood when he comes home each evening. It is really hard because I know that he has just been to the gym and has seen her. I wish he would STOP working out at that gym and workout at mine.

I just don't understand what she is getting out of this relationship now. I don't think she knows that he is living back at our house. I think he has just told her that he needs his space to think and to slow things down.

Thank you everyone for your input. I really feel like I don't have anyone to talk to that understands. I have used the DB counselors and Jodi (my C) is absolutly wonderful. She understands and helps me put all of the positives in perspective. She tells me that he is just stringing the OW along in case it doesn' workout with us. Sometimes, I feel like I'm the one being strung along incase it doesn't work out with HER.

Faith