I have seen several posts by people telling him that he can make himself happy by accepting his sitch and learning to find what grains of happiness he can be GAL. That is not validating his needs, which is exactly the same message he gets from his wife. so he shuts down to your entire message.
I am learning that the value of this forum is not just the information posted, but the practice you can get on how to approach a person and explain you position, on how to validate another or not, on how to push and issue or not, on how to confront or not, etc. Not validating a person who wears industrial sized, super thick filters is counterproductive to getting your message across and counter productive to the lessons and practice you could otherwise gain here.
I agree with what you and everyone else is trying to do though.
