Need quick help. In a mediation session today I had to admit that some assets I owned (worth about $8000) which my wife thought I still retained, I had actually cashed in to pay bills a few years ago. Meanwhile I had told her I still retained them on a number of occasions.
The cash will not make a particularly large difference to our proposed arrangements - however it allowed her an opporrunity to say "See! I told you so...!! This is why I want to separate...!!"
I felt i had scored a serious own goal and she then piled on the pressure during the session with a whole bunch of emotional blackmail. This allowed a total deflection from the fact of her one-year relationship with a married man (which is now conveniently 'over' by the way, though I have my doubts) so that I am now the only 'guilty party' in the relationship once again.
She can guiltrip me effortlessly and I find I have no defence against it. This is a girl who was sending me beautiful love messages right up to the day she met the OG. Then all changed.
Anyhow, my question is, how do i recover from this situation and regain some advantage. I am being browbeaten in this mediation process and by bullying at home to accept a settlement I don't want. Don't want our family to break up, don't want to leave... it's all being dictated by her.
