I think a lot of the messages here get lost in the frustration of the poster... frustration with your passive aggressive, victim thinking and refusal to accept your own power to change your sitch. When people start saying that you can make yourself happy, I can see how the other things they say get lost.
I agree with you that if you want lots of sex to make you happy, then that is fine. Nothing wrong with that. Nothing else will substitute and nothing else will really make you happy. I think people need to stop telling you what you like or don't like, need or don't need.
The frustration with you is that you focus on what you want/need without any ownership of what it takes to get there. It's almost like you can't differentiate between the journey and the destination. You seem to mix the two up. If you want to be happy and have lots of sex (the destination) then you will have to do certain things and make certain changes (the journey). Can you understand that?
You say that if someone has a way to create desire in your wife, you would do it in a heartbeat, but each time a suggestion is made, you just ignore it. I think you are actually quite content in your situation and just want to complain because if it was so uncomfortable and unbearable, the changes suggested would be easier for you than continuing to endure your low desire wife.
You've seen the history of Mojo's marraige and her ex. How is it you differ from him? And don't bring up the difference in desire between Mojo and your wife. That has nothing to do with what I'm talking about. Mojo's ex would sit and complain about EVERYTHING and do nothing to bring about any changes. As we have seen, he is scared of just about everything, has no ability to assert himself at home or in the office, and blames everyone else for his unhappiness. He is the ultimate victim. How do you differ from this and why should we think there is any hope for you?
