Thanks for the advice. I'm still hesitating though. The dbing seems to be working. Things have been going so well, and when he came home tonight from his weekend trip to his brother's, we had a great night. Lots of love. We have been sleeping together, not fighting, R talks every few days, mostly at his suggestion because I try not to initiate.
Not that it's okay, but maybe it was a one-time thing, long ago. I know he's been behaving for about the last month now as I did set some boundaries before/during/after the bomb, and pretty much know where he is all the time.
I'm not sure yet what I want to do or what I can handle. He's off again on a business trip until our first C appt so I'll see how it goes. I know I'll have to deal with this eventually. I may be impatient, but I'm also a big procrastinator!
