Lil What would it mean for YOU to go WAAAAY outside your comfort zone? For the moment, stop thinking about HIM and how HE needs to go outside his... what about you?
HW, I see you post what your H isn't doing or what your H might think/feel. I think Lil would like you to post more of "your" feelings/thoughts on the SSM forum. How you feel/think if the world revolved around you, and served your needs and wants before anyone elses needs or wants.
You can do that on the SSM forum but don't have to do all of it in real life.
Quote:
Heywyre wrote that her H said:
Quote: (1) I can't change my personality (not that I was asking him to)
(2) maybe we aren't compatible
(3) maybe we shouldn't be together
(4) maybe I can't give you what you need emotionally
(5) I can't fix what you were lacking in your childhood
(6) maybe you need to fix something inside of you but that has nothing to do with me
You might want to start with a list of 6 things you want, maybe or maybe not related to Mr. HW's list. Another thought might be a list of what you want in a R after so many Emotionally Focused Therapy sessions.
