Whomever she is going through for her loan is supposely aware of her current sitch and all they need is her name off our mortgage to give her a loan. This is all fine and dandy but until I get a hard number and proof that she is not going to come at me for more I will not get my house refinanced.
Well tonight on my way to my parents house my W called to ask me if I had any questions about her proposal and said then we are in agreemnt then.....Nope not exactly....
I am sticking with taking into account the agent costs for selling and closing costs into the settlement. She however does not think that she should pay half of them since I am keeping the house and will make that money in the future. I explained to her that she can not think about the future, we are splitting what we would get for our house today. I am taking on the risk of keeping the house if it goes down in value not her.
This is about the time when she started to raise her voice and sucked me into an arguement about this whole money garbage. I tried to again explain to her what my settlement was, to which she answered that: "what are you going to do when I talk to my L and he doesn't see it your way....because he doesn't agree with you". I told her that I did not care what her L thought and if it comes to it a judge would agree that I am being the reasonable one. She then started to threaten me with my girls, but she stopped herself. I did acknowledge that she was threatening me....This all really sucks....
I also told her that I was not trying to hold this D up and that I just want to be able to walk into my house and not have you lurking. I am tired of being questioned about everything that I am doing and who I am talking to. I am really tired of being accused of being a horrible guy.....
The other comment that she made to me I thought was interesting. She told me when I look back at this in a couple of years I will see how badly I have treated her during the D. I told her that I have done nothing wrong. I got a L and put this D in their hands. I have been working with you on settling some of these issues because it is the most fair to us and our girls. It will also save us money in the end.
Again not a pleasant conversation at all. I am still in her eyes doing wrong even through this D which she files for. I have no idea even how to take her perspective on this.
Oh, she also tells me that I can trust her that she won't come after me for more money....I am not sure why she thinks I can trust her at this point. Throwing the whole infidelity issue out the window she has gone back on her word countless times over the last few months.....
What is this world coming to?? My friend just called me and told me that his W told him that she was done. His W is the one that my W confided a lot in over the last 8 months, she also had atleast 2 A's. He still has no idea about the infidelity, which I still do not think it is my place to say anything about.....
