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[alamogirl]

Hey big tuna,

I'm glad to hear that you all had a great time in Cooperstown.

I thought about what you wrote that your ex always told you how happy she was and then she dropped the bomb. I just don't get it. I think back to the week before and even the week leading to our separation...we were still out back playing with our dogs drinking a few beers. I'm thinking, "How the hell was he able to do that." He knew he was going to leave. I don't think I could have pretended everything was fine, and then BAM--I want out.

My therapist said that usually when the spouse walks away suddenly, they have already mourned the demise of their marriage, which is why my ex was ok drinking beer and chatting up a storm as if nothing was wrong--FREAKIN AMAZING! He was chatty and happy because he already knew that he was leaving the marriage.

I've had a whole year to mourn and accept the breakup of my marriage. I still have my moments, but for the most part, I'm doing great. I have a great support system...just as you do with your two wonderful sons. You are lucky to have them just as they are lucky to have you.

You take care of those boys, ya hear.

All my best,
alamogirl