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Here your (((((((((hug)))))))))

I feel your pain, and I hope you don't give up.

I agree H needs kick in the head/wake up call, and you need a break from him, no contact till your head/heart clears.

my 2c

Make a list of changes/your needs for him to meet.

If he makes an effort, give a little reward. But be firm.

Do you have a goals list?

Poe

PS: Tell him about the guy who tried to pick you up. Don't give any details when he ask questions, make him wonder.

Poe Has Got Off The Runaway Train