Morning,LL..I like the lawn thing..he does get it... but on his level and his terms..some people(not just men I suppose)can't seem to be able to start the healing and fixing of a r..I question myself if h comes back where, how do we start..it is a scary thought..keep looking and talking for small things.It takes both people to repair..but one might do it differently..we..the db'r is probably going to be the one that has to work harder on what is working and what is not...we have learned so many tools, tricks, ideas..our s have not had all this "training"..they don't have a clue where to begin. If you truly are unhappy with the m, unsure if you really love h and want to make the m work, then you have to look at that.. This is only my opinion, but you have to answer all these feelings that are going on with yourself first...if you can't both come back to the r with forgiveness,commitment and the need to really want to rebuild the m, then it probably is is not going to work. We can't force anyone to express their feelings the way we want them or think they should be done, I knew when I married my h, that he was not romantic, did not send flowers..gifts..I knew he was not a talker, could not express his feelings..I accepted him..did not always like it..wished he would just send me flowers for no reason..the little things..did it contribute to the breakdown..probably..but I missed all the good things and qualities that he does posess...as he did with me also..through the years, we did not know how to work on the important things that keep a marriage going..and I am not sure right now that I know how to..but that is what we are all learning. Sue
