H called while we were coming out of the doctor's office to check on S (who is ok). I told him we were on the way home, and he could call there.
He didn't call until hours later, while I had a friend over for a visit. He said he thought maybe he misunderstood me...did I want him to call? I said if you'd like to speak with S; and he said he always wants to talk to them. I told him about the appt and I handed off the phone.
I wish it didn't have to be this way, but any contact I have with him right now tears my heart out. I need to get caller ID. Day One of space, and I feel like sh!t.
Looking at Dr. Harley's site about being the best friend while the affair dies...but it still going, so I'm just as happy to stay out of it all, now. He doesn't hear a damn thing I say, anyway.
The kids are having dinner with him tomorrow night (I drop off and pick up, planning on staying in the car), then we have the state-mandated parenting course Wed and Thurs night--thank God we are going away the next day. I'm hoping that the change of scenery will help me snap my head back on after all that face time.
Should I tell him that the friend thing is not going to ever happen while he is still seeing her? Or just show it?
Answer my own question: Just show it. Polite acquaintences.
