I'm sure it makes your heart pound to think of the minefield you have to walk thru between now and then but you can do it. Simply tell her that you need your time to yourself just as much as anyone does, regardless of the fact that you have kids from a previous marriage and are a recovering financial dunce. And leave it at that. Stuff like this just makes her nervous because it triggers all sorts of abandonment fears that her dad set off, so try to keep that in mind and retain your empathy.
Yeah, but I have to tell you, the energy required to shift into "empathy" instead of "defensive" or "rage" mode is huge. Especially when "empathy" doesn't necessarily come naturally or easy to me these days. But I'll do my best, of course.
Originally Posted By: honeypott
Btw, are you roasting today or what?
Yeah, the walk from my car to the building this morning at 6:15am gave me the sweats - it was already 85. The bank clock says 95 right now, and the heat index is 100. I am NOT looking forward to getting into my Chevy mini-oven in about 20 minutes.
