My answer is: surely he will recognize this and love me/approve of me/validate me. Which is what I always wanted from my mother. Sick, isn't it?
I don't know that I have ever run across someone who does not think this way, at least to some level. I think the so-called "healthy" individual is the anomaly and people like you describe yourself to be are more the norm. So, I would say it is not sick, but actually normal....unhealthy, but normal.
