I was on my knees begging...and you know the rest.

[MissingMyHoney]

I was reading ewe's post on the 'As-If attitude. It has a lot of meaning to what I experience and currently experiencing.

I do have a question on this excerpt..."In the Transition Zone, the Taker in you and in your spouse urges you and him/her to return pain whenever its received. You stop the cycle. You don't return pain for pain. You do it in a loving, but not submission way ... you do it with respect for your mate and yourself ... you don't return pain for pain. This is a very important change of behavior that has a major impact on the dynamics of the relationship."

As stated in the previous post, I know she would have been terribly upset if I made a copy of her cell phone bill and confronted her about it. W did said she would have spent the weekend in jail since she knew her cell phone bill came in and I would have opened it and/or approached her about it.

Rather, I gave her the cell phone bill and five minutes later I told her I am going to the services. After two hours, I returned home and didn't speak about it. Surprisingly, she didnt expected me to not say anything about it. Yesterday, I didnt bring the topic up.

Is this what I must keep on doing? If so, the 'As-If" attitude can bring wonders to the R and my W views as to why I am so calm about everything.