Deida: Then if she cannot or will not open up in love, he might decide to end his relationship with her, harboring no anger or resentment, because he knows he has done everything he could."

Cemar: But Deida also makes it clear that if she does not desire you, don't let that bother you, but instead, DUMP her and try again.


Cemar: Did we not just say the same thing, just with different words?

In my opinion no. What you say and what I interpret from Deida ARE different.

First, in my interpretation of Deida, a man would have to be a superior man and then IF and only IF he is living a superior life and his woman was unable to open up in love (Not unable to desire him - an important difference) he might have to face the choice that nothing more can be done and in doing so he would harbor no anger or resentment for her.

Using the word dump denotes an anger and frustration which is terribly obvious in everything you write about your wife. I have never heard anything compassionate or loving about your wife from you. I have to imagine that you have that same attitude when you are with her and I cannot imagine it is very attractive.

You are free to do whatever you want to do. I gave up long ago expecting you to understand anything I write.



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus