After I saw my new IC a three or four times (and while W was actively not working on the M), I told W I had been seeing a new IC, and that she was great, and that we were working on some things I wanted to change about me for me (and for my next R whether that was with W or someone else). A little later I asked W if she would be willing, for me, to go see my IC by herself, so my IC could get W's side of the story, and what the (my?) problems were from W's perspective, so that IC could then continue to help me. W agreed. (Note: she painted an extremely bleak picture for IC (I'm sure trying to justify her positions, stance), so if this happens prepare yourself for the worst. Then, if it happens, you'll be ready, and if W doesn't say you're awful you'll be pleasantly surprised.) W was very impressed, and asked to see IC alone. IC said no. A few weeks later I approached W about seeing IC together under the theory of working on our communicating and co-parentiing, because we needed to do that no matter what for our kids. And we've been going under that arrangement ever since.
CVA, don't you think you should see the new C at least a couple more times to make sure you like her before you try to sign W up? This may be your one shot to get W in MC, and you better not waste it on a new C only to discover later she isn't right for you or your sitch. What's the rush? Can't you approach W about this in a few weeks? She's not going anywhere.
Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
