Frustrated and Saddened #2

[stewart10]

it's better to PLAY basketball than look like you swallowed one, right?

This made me laugh pretty hard. Good point.

You and I have the same problem, we want to convince our wives that they need to SEE us. Look at me, look at me. Gotta stop, nose to the grindstone, focus on ourselves and allow our wives to make their own decisions, even if it's the "wrong" one. We need to be the best man we can be. After that, it's out of our control. Make that decision for them to leave us hard because that will mean we were better than we were (and, pragmatically, will set us up for future relationship success)

I have to constantly remind myself of this. It just doesn't seem to be sticking. Have to try harder to remember the theory behind this whole process. Especially the part about letting them make their own decisions.