. Last night I ran through so many emotions, and thought of calling and confronting the OW (I have yet to even be in the same room as her or even talk to her). I know where she lives so I thought of going to the OW's ex and finding out what he knows. I thought of sitting them both down. For now I decided to just not do anything of that caliber.
Cali,
NO NO NO, and one more NO
DO NOR CONTACT THE OW. This is not wise. I know exactly how you feel, I know where my W OM works and Lives (With his wife). I can call anytime. BUT.... IF you do this it will push your H towards the OW. I know it does not make sense but in your husbands eyes you will be the trouble maker. This is a LAST RESORT. Check the other posts; I have not seen one that contacting the OP did any good. But have seen many that ended in disaster. It's hard I know. I have his number on speed dial on my phone. But like I said this is a last resort. As much as we want to blame the OP it's our spouses that made the choice. They are the ones that "let it happen". The OP is just along for the ride. IF my sitch did end in D I WILL BE ON THE OM DOOR STEP. But until then it’s between you and your Spouse. If you were to drive the OW away it would not solve anything. Your H would just find another. HE needs to be the one to see what a treasure he has waiting at home and all that he will lose and decide he wants to work with ya.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
