MO, I cannot be in proximity to her F...also instructed that by my L. I believe that essentially, all I can do is give her a card again.
Frank, I think a card and a gift from your kids is all you should do. If you would like to still do dinner for her do it at home and have the kids help prepare it. I treated my W's birthday in February like I have any other year that I have known her. My girls gave her a nice gift and I brought her out to see Wicked and dinner. I really hoped a nice evening out for my W and I would have helped us, but she was cold, distant, and did not appreciate my effort.
Keep it simple....for now forget about your IL's. Do something with your kids and leave it at that.
I had more to say but I am a bit of a pessimist right now so I deleted it.
