Hey FIB. Got my stitches out today, 8 days after the surgery. Still hurts a lot more than I thought but that's okay. At least the light is on at the end of the tunnel. More painkillers, anti-inflammatories and therapy 3X a week. I should be up and running by mid-September. I can't wait.
I feel your pain bro. My sitch echoes yours so closely it's erie. I think I have finally got to the place braveheart posted about;
Originally Posted By: braveheart
I don't know about anyone else on here, but it seems like I am seeing more and more of these type of stories, MLC spouses who just mentally and verbally abuse the LBS to no end. I also read post after post of people saying "don;t take it personnaly" "They aren't well" and so on and so forth. In saying this, I am not putting anyone down for giving that advice, but I have to ask; How much is enough? I cannot see any benefit in standing by letting someone treat you this way. I can say this from experience, for a year I took every kind of abuse from my XW, let her talk to me like a dog, say some of the meanest, cruelest, hurtful things that you can imagine. I decided a few weeks ago that I had spoken my last words to her ever after I took off to let her get the remainder of her things out of the house and she called me and cussed me out. Since then she has tried to call me several times and email me as well. She will talk forever into silence when it comes to me. For me the answer is simple, don't take the abuse, let her be mean to someone else. Life is too damn short to let someone be mean to you. Trust me, there are MUCH better people out there!
That is where I am now. I do feel guilt, so much pain for what my kids are going through and will go through as a result of this insanity. Yet what can I do? Nothing. She is pursing the D as intensely as possible. She daily reminds me of all the reasons why she wants this, whether I want to hear it or not.
For me FIB, enough is enough. Am I a weakling? Not able to stand or deflect this spew, chalking it up to nothing personal?
Maybe. I know this much, in the midst of this she continues to phone and text the OW, she is still shredding us financially as recent as yesterday kiting 2 checks to pay her way to attend a music festival with her single friends. I can't do it any longer.
This abusive on so many levels to the LBS as well as the children caught in the middle.
God speed FIB, and to all that are caught in this incredible struggle. For me, this is simply the toughest, most painful thing I have ever had to endure.
