She did not want to give up the "control" of the finances. Fine...I just want to understand where we are financially, and how we're doing. She reasserted that we're doing pretty well with regard to debt/income ratios and retirement savings. And college funds are also doing okay, in spite of the late start.
Hmmmmm.... big red flag for me here.
When you said she handled the finances, I didn't think that meant you really didn't know any of the details. Omigod, hd, this is huge.
I just want to understand where we are financially, and how we're doing. She reasserted that we're doing pretty well
You REALLY don't know the details? The numbers-- the SPECIFIC numbers?
What if you're NOT doing well? What if her reaction to your $200 trip is precisely because you're not doing well? What if she has screwed everything up, taken some chances with investments, created her OWN nest egg in another bank because "he keeps threatening me with divorce!"
You must become an equal partner in the finances again or you will NEVER be able to locate your balls! She can still run them, but you must be aware of how much you have, what she does with it, where it all is, passwords etc. on all accounts, where to find this info at any time (i.e., online banking, quicken, etc.).
