Maybe changing up your game might create that spark.
Most important, that spark needs to be, what SuperDad calls the path of the heart. It has to do with finding yourself, not playing games with her head.
You are trying very hard to court her: dates, etc. You are a nice guy. Well maybe it's working, maybe it't not. Perhaps add some different things to your arsenal.
Some thoughts:
1. Maybe more "drive-by" flirting.
2. Find something YOU are passionate about for you. Some hobby, interest, cause, that gets your blood flowing. Not just fun activities, but intense activities that challenge you to operate at your edge. Rock-Climbing, mountain climbing. How about a 7-10 day course with American Alpine Ascents? Just you, maybe your 15 year old. Go to the North Cascades and learn how to Climb. Or start Rock climbing. There are tons of areas all over the country. It can become a weekend passion for you.
Again, I suggest Karate a lot: it's an ancient warrior discipline that can really engage your mind/body/spirit. Maybe you want to delve into the study of theology. Maybe you want to give you time to Habitat for Humanity. I'm talking about something transcendent, highly engaging and, perhaps, a little addictive. A drug for the soul.
One of the Fathers of modern Karate felt that a true Karate practicitioner had an OPEN heart. Anyone could read it: this man is true and righteous, he bears no malice to anyone. He is clear, strong and confident. A man you could trust. But beware, it's a lion's heart. Attack him, and he'll stop you dead in your tracks. The goal of Karate, according to another master, was to polish your character.
3. Grieve your father. Buy flowers and go visit his grave alone. Talk to him. Tell him how much you miss him. Tell him how much you wish you had known him more. Kneel in front of the grave. Next time take a friend with you that you feel comfortable crying around. I'd be there if I could. You know I could.
4. Maybe find a C that can help you "find the authentic self". That's psycho-jargon to help you clear out the junk and be true and authentic.
5. There needs to be in your mind (and mine) a willingness to not bet the whole farm on our marriages succeeding. Now I'm getting theological. Our marriage can become an idol. Painful as it is, losing that idol may be necessary for us to find our true, purer and more authentic self. Man I hate saying that.
