Thanks Husband and TAL. I spoke with my best friend last night and she helped calm me down a bit. Still pretty pissed, but I knew snooping was bad. Last night I ran through so many emotions, and thought of calling and confronting the OW (I have yet to even be in the same room as her or even talk to her). I know where she lives so I thought of going to the OW's ex and finding out what he knows. I thought of sitting them both down. For now I decided to just not do anything of that caliber. I am going to try calling the lawyer again today, my employer has a program where I get a free one hour consult. I need to just find out for now if there is something I can do to secure child support and custody but possibly not do legal seperation or divorce. I honestly want him to do that, and considering how well i think i know him, it will be a long time before he gets around to it, i think? but i am concerned about me and the kids, and because i never can tell what direction he is heading i need to protect us financially and have something to hold him to for visitation because he constantly changes our agreements to suit his schedule.
