"The beatings will continue until morale improves"

[faithisbelieving]

iMlin..thanks for your story of inspiration. I know of only 2 people here with restored M's...yours...and FaithfulH's. My W is not there. Anger....living in the past...new visits to the 'Advanced Inject Your Face' Place. I was in the Inspirational column last year, only to be put there for a brief 'out of the tunnel experience'. Sometimes I feel embarrassed about that.

I HAVE been going on with my life ,but, as of yesterday, am now being accused of 'excluding her'.

Me: XXX...I am not excluding you. You told me to move on with my life last December and recently. You told me that the ONLY reason that you want to be with me is because you'd miss the kids. You were ready to file, and, we would be separated at that time anyway if you did. I am only doing what you told me to do....go on with my life.

Silence.

We went to the beach yesterday. D4 feel asleep on the towel, spread out. Here ya go. My W went up to the concession stand/beach store and bought ANOTHER TOWEL and stretched it out next to the larger one.....to lay down apart from me. There was room for her....but....too close for comfort I guess.

I've reduced my conversation with. I don't wish to be cold. I just don't have much to say and it seems that everytime I DO say something, it is taken out of context.

So...although my W doesn't want to go with ME per se on a break ..only because she wants to be with the kids...when I take them out for the day, I am EXCLUDING HER. Ironic...that only a few weeks/months ago, she had an appt with her atty to file. BTW, the days I DO take them out, are on her days/evenings of work.

Tonite, my W is going out with the 'girls from the salon'. Is she? Who knows. I hope she has a good time 'whoever' it's with.

Question My W's 40th birthday is coming up. Your IL's are not talking to you. Your FIL recently threatened you and threatened to call the police. Your W is not asking you about your life, sleeping with your, touching you or really cares about your goings on. Before the havoc, your W insisted on having NOTHING big for the 40th. Weeks ago, prior to the increased frequency of negative verbal remarks, I had offered her to go out to dinner on the 25th (her Bday is the 26th). Her response was maybe. The 25th is also the date of a nearby 'rockerdude' concert.

IMO, I cannot be in proximity to her F...also instructed that by my L. I believe that essentially, all I can do is give her a card again.

Thoughts?

FIB