I try to use email when possible to convey a message. Not only does it help to avoid conflict, but it's a great tool for avoiding confusion. Don't know about your H, but important details (time, places, and events) go in one ear and out the other with my stbx. She's a great planner, but a poor listener. She can just go over my emails if she can't remember specifics about visitation or finances.
My stbx and I seldom have conflict anymore. It's pretty much all business now a days, but I do remember a lot of emailing in the beginning to take the edge off. If it feels more comfortable for you, go with it!
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
