He strongly stated that it was critical to get her to go to IC and suggested that I should try to talk to my sister in law about it. Not mention details of W's dirty laundry, just say something like:
"SIL, you know that W and I are having trouble with our marriage. I am not sure if our M has a chance or not, and I know that I could have done many things much better in our M. I have been attending IC for several months and it has really helped me to understand what I need to make me happy.
I still care for W deeply and am very concerned about her. I believe that W could similarly benefit from counseling, and I have mentioned this to her, but she seems hesitant to go. If you also think that she could benefit from counseling, I would appreciate it if you could discuss this with her.
Note that we are all at SIL's house for the next 2 days and W has been here for a week and will stay for a few more days before we all drive back to FL (15 hours). I am not sure 1. If this is a good idea. 2. If now is the right time.
Anyhow, I appreciate any input!
SD
I think it is a good idea. Don't know if it will work or not, but I think it is worth a try. I only seeing it hurting if W finds out and gets mad at you for doing it. Why not add something like you contemplated once before about "if W finds out I asked you to do this (or if she thinkis it is coming from me), she may very well shut down and refuse it for that reason alone"?
What would be a better time? I think doing it in person would be better than over the phone. That was SIL can she your face and can see that you just care about your W and the mother of your kids.
Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
