My thought is that you have been S for almost 6 months. You are in regular contact with W. You two go out with the children as a family, are at your house with her almost every night watching TV & doing the backrubs thing…as with everything there is a natural progression to things and it sounds like you two are ready to move forward.
I know you are supposed to avoid R talks and pressuring but I think in your case where you are at a standstill with the W you may need to take the lead and initiate the talk. Maybe let her know you have been seeing a new IC, and you have been thinking about MC. Find out what her thoughts are. If she is resistant then drop it, but I don’t think you would be wrong asking her what her “plan” was for your M if she doesn’t want to go to MC. Where does she see you two headed? See if she gives you anything to work with. But I would keep it light, keep your head and backoff if she seems at all threatened.
Maybe some of the vets have some more helpful ideas?
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
