Give yourself a break, will ya? Has H EVER said he wanted to move to another part of the country?
Yes, OW is here, but so are YOU and the KIDS. Don't assume the worst all the time.
Mike
PS as for email, do what works. I'm actually thinking of doing more email with XW because we can never seem to come out of a conversation with the same idea about what was decided. Removing the emotions from it would be a bonus, as well.