It all sounds so new to your W and I guess in that exciting phase - but even so she has so much to lose. I know that I found out as it was all beginning to look difficult for my H but he had wanted me to find outfor ages. He had wanted me to stop it I think - I just didn't know what was going on and trusted him too much to think he wld have an A. I must admit, I don't think I could do what some of you guys do and live along side whilst your spouses indulge themselves in their A. I had to set boundaries - if not for myself then for my children. At the end of the day it was very interesting to find out that my H was insecure and afraid of being left by himself as he thought we had grown so far apart that there was no way back - he was hedging his bets. Also the sex it turned out was absolute s"!t. He would never have admitted that when in the first flush of the A I am sure but it showed me that not everything in the garden is as rosy as we LBS may think.
Just a few thoughts.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
