LL, I know you're frustrated, and I do fear you becoming a WAW. Something in your post caught my attention:
Quote: I do not know h...never really did....
some day h will decide to be open and honest with me once again...
The last sentence kind of contradicts the first one. Are you sure you're not selectively choosing to remember what you want about the past? Seems you're getting ever closer to that WAW point.
I certainly understand your frustrations. However, when you really step back and look at things, I have to agree with KAW, your H does seem to be trying...ever so slowly. For whatever reason, you telling him what you want/need verbally just isn't working. Why do you think? Maybe this is the pattern that needs to change? I don't know, but it seems such a shame to just become apathetic after all of your hard work.
-Have you tried contacting a DB coach? -Have you tried the sticky note idea? -Have you "insisted" H fill out the form from your C?
I still think there are things to try before "giving up." I hate to see you so disheartened.
