Maybe the sex wasn't that good. All that build up, and then a disappointment. But he's not going to tell you that.
The decision of whether to stay married is yours to make. I would put the decision on hold until you do the Retrouvaille weekend. They will tell him that he has to cut off the other relationship. They are firm about that. And in your discussions you will know if you want to recommit to the marriage or not.
It really is a retreat where you get to know each other all over again. As we were going through the Retrouvaille process, I kept the thought in my head, "Can you fix a broken husband?" At first I thought the answer was no. But now I see that it really is yes.
You had a lot of years dating. Think back to the men you met. Do you think there is a man out there who will be better for you than your husband? My experience was that they all had problems or baggage. I decided to stick with what I know.
But this is for you to decide. And it doesn't have to be right away. I can tell you the Retrouvaille experience will clarify your thinking.
If you have questions about Retrouvaille, you can email me at Purpleheiz@aol.com.
