when my h distanced from me and had a foot out the door and a heart for ow i refused to disapear. i showed up at his work with cookies, at baseball games with the dog, at his friends house just stopping by, etc. this was in 99 and it may have bugged the hell out of him but it felt like i was losing him anyway so why not. i refused to disapear. if you don't know what he does all day, show up. if you want. if you are really so unhappy, maybe you should stop focusing on the m and on what you are going to do.
it sounded like you had some real goals for yourself. go for them. make your life more about you and your future. your h does love you, but right now it doesn't seem to be the way you need him to.
have you guys tried c? what does your c say about all this? lisa
