Hi Disillusioned. Sorry you're here. I'll probably not have too much to say that's helpful, but let me start in on the technical questions...
Quoting you in bold:
How does one become a full member?
Once you post a certain # of times, it switches. I think 100 is the magic #, but I could be wrong. Anyway, the membership status seems irrelevant here.
How can I go back and edit a previous post?
If you go back to that post within 10-30 min (forgot the exact time) of posting, you'll see that there is a button for editing. After a fixed time though, this option is lost and the post is there for all eternity...
What's the easiest to bookmark, link to, or otherwise find these again?
I used to hack out relevant parts and email them to myself. But the easiest way is, at the top of each thread under topic options, you can choose add topic to watched topics. Then under My stuff, you have your watch lists for topics, users and forums...
Let me just chime in on this that sfa wrote:
None of us can alter the future for our partners. They must want to do what needs to be done to make a marriage work. All that we can do is become strong independant people and support them emotionally through it in hopes that they will at some point desire to work on their marriages.
I might restate this in another way:
If your partner doesn't want the M to be saved, there isn't much you can do about it so you have no recourse but to save yourself.
If your partner is ambivalent about wanting to save the marriage (or watns to even), there may or may not be much you can do to directly affect the outcome... I think most people would probably agree that in most situations here there is little you can do to make them want to come back, but much you can do to make them NOT want to come back (hence the don't beg, don't pursue...)
The bottom line is that some marriages can be saved. You have no idea on which side of the fence yours sits.
One thing though, if you wish for your M to be salvaged.... Don't worry about the odds, don't worry about what's happening with anyone else but you and you situation.
A thousand monkeys typing for a thousand years..... One will type Shakespeare....
You have to believe that you're that monkey.
Take care,
S_O_T_S aka: Stoic_On_The_Surface
I can't quite get there cause my heart's forsaken me - KT Tunstall
