12_51: Offended as I may be at your outrageous desire to keep money out of the pockets of attorneys ;\) I think that if you are able to "do it yourself," that's great. Some words of advice -- I agree with SM that, if YOU are ready to move on, you should list yourself as Plaintiff. Listing her as Plaintiff just puts the ball in her court and seems, well, a bit passive-aggressive.

And SM is correct about mediation, too. My W does some divorce mediation and, although she has had a few cases end up with the couple reconciling, it is definitely the exception. Plus, I think she's more willing than most attorneys to say at some point in the session, "so, why is it that you are divorcing? You seem to be getting along better than most married people." Most attorneys are just there to help you work through property division and custody and child support issues.

Good luck to you, and be strong.

Hairdog