I'm back. Took the weekend off so to speak. Thanks for the thoughts.
Heimlich, Yeah its too bad I hadn't registered yet, I definitely could have been using the BB to my advantage then. Maybe next time your down we'll arrange those beers. Thanks for the link, I'm going to take a look at the book.
dlt1 & Matt, I agree that for now I'm not going to bring up any of the books. A little down the road I may leave the 5LL out at my house where she might see it and browse, but I don't really think I will ASK her to read it. I don't plan on showing DR to her at all. I have been kind of thinking of it as my "cheat sheet". I think that if she read DR right now, she might see my changes and actions as a "intricate plan" rather than a true attempt at change.
M 39, W 35 D7, S5 Friends 18+ Together 11+ Married 8 ILYBINILWY 4/7/07 - A BOMB 4/29/07 Seperated 5/16/07 - D Filed She Moved out 7/1 D Busted 6/15/08