We are debating past each other. I was simply making the point that your comment that mom-mode is useless was hyperbolic. Yes, if a woman gets stuck in mom-mode for 18 years (as you claim is the case with your W), that is a serious R problem. And I agree that one of the most common R problems is women getting stuck in mom-mode. But a man who doesn't appreciate the usefulness of mom-mode is a man who is going to have R problems regardless of how stuck his W is. Frankly, your "anti mom-mode" attitude is likely to come across as disrespectful to your W.
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I have been sucking it up for 18 years
That my friend is a serious problem for sure.
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I have raised 3 boys, the youngest of which is 11.
This may be a bit nit-picky, but don't you mean you have helped raise 3 boys with your W?
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Even when on vacation ALONE with my wife, specifically to get closer to her, she does not want sex, even gets a little miffed if I ask for it.
This is a COMPLETELY different situation that what we are talking about. Your W not having sex with you on a couples vacation has nothing to do with mommy-mode. UNLESS she is pining away for the kids the whole time and uses that as an excuse to not be intimate. That would be a problem.
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My wife see vacation as time to do what SHE wants, not to do what is good for US, but that is the way she lives her life, doing what is good for HER, not for US.
If that truly is the case then you need to confront her with the issue. Why don't you "head her off at the pass" and plan a vacation where you just get a hotel room at a boring location with the idae that you are just going to stay in and fcuk the whole time? Seriously, what you describe is a serious R problem. What do you think you can do about it?
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p.s. Sorry Corri if this is too OT.
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