There are never any guarantees for anything, BUT, I DO know that by not letting go of the past, I am creating an environment where my fears more likely WILL come true. Holding on is like admitting that you NEED the other person, and that's not true. I CHOOSE H, but I don't NEED him to be happy.
I'm glad you posted this SD, and your comment about 'staying lovingly detached' being so important to your continuing R. One thing, even tho I'm not going to be piecing in this M, I worry that I will cripple myself w/ over-analyzing future Rs, etc. I don't want to be the person that assumes the worst case scenario whenever their partner needs space or takes space. Does that make sense? So this is a great reminder.
And as always, it's wonderful to see you doing so well...
