I can see what God is doing here and I think it is great. Little baby steps but your husband stepped up to the plate and did something he did not have to do. He could have said to call AAA, or have one of the boys walk to the nearest station, you know something like that, but he didn't! He cared enough to want to help his family.
And he was kind to you.
I think you were great, too, knowing that OW was in the car but you did not say a word about her or to her. She must have felt very uncomfortable, and who knows, she could have invited herself along for the ride.
I am also glad to hear the phone conversation went well.
You will soon begin to see God's blessings in this. I think He sets things up in a specific order and soon, you will be able to see how HE is working in your life and your husband's but it takes awhile.
Remember, love is patient so we must all learn to be patient which is the hardest thing.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Just wanted to thank you for your warm and loving posts to me, if you can you can ask BND or RCR for my e-mail adress ! Would love to get those prayers, they seem to be working miracles for you ! xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
I'm glad to see you are feeling better. As long as you are clear on what you want and never lose faith in God's plan, your wish will come true.
You see, you running out of gas happened for a reason; it was part of God's plan to see you and your H together; to test your faith in Him; to have OW there to give YOU the strength you need to continue to stand.
OW will question why your H is always willing to run and help when you call. She will get jealous of the phone calls, the visits and will eventually wonder just how she fits into his life knowing that she does not have his full attention.
I agree with BND, H and OW moving in together will be the beginning of the end of their relationship. Don't give her a minute of your thoughts as that is one minute she doesn't deserve.
Focus on you and God will do the rest.
Hugs, ISLH
Me: 49 - S22 & S26 H: 41 - No kids M: 10/00 Bomb New Year's Day 2006 H living w OW 01/07; have baby 12/07 D final 07/07 Thread #9 - Hope Lives On
"OW will question why your H is always willing to run and help when you call. She will get jealous of the phone calls, the visits and will eventually wonder just how she fits into his life knowing that she does not have his full attention.
I agree with BND, H and OW moving in together will be the beginning of the end of their relationship. Don't give her a minute of your thoughts as that is one minute she doesn't deserve."
Yep, I agree.
Seems me and H, and H and our kids are in constant communication these last few weeks and it is accelerating like crazy for very valid reasons.
Since my H has been living with OW, you would think she would get tired of it but her prize is still my H and for whatever it is worth, in her eyes, this is a contest to see if I will cave and file for a D which is not going to happen. I have God on my side, have finally found peace in all of this and don't really think about her as she has no future in our lives and she is not a part of our family.
God will take care of these OW in His time.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
As long as you are clear on what you want and never lose faith in God's plan, your wish will come true.
I so needed to hear those words tonight. I was feeling a little sad because H and heroin were at their house working this afternoon so he didn't have dinner with S20 (he leaves to go back to college on Tuesday) H is taking the day off from work tomorrow to work on the house, too. It hurts even if I know that it won't last and that it is the beginning of the end with he and heroin.
I sent an email inviting H to dinner tomorrow night for S20's last night at home.
All he can do is say no, right!
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
ANM, Keep thanking God and feel gratitude for ANY positive baby step. That will pave the way for more of the positive things. Ignore the fact that he cancelled dinner. Your H really was very very kind to help you with the gas. OW came along probably because she insisted on it. I think it made your H feel good that he was able to help. It was an opportunity for him to be the hero to his wife and family, even if he doesn't know it himself.
It really is a a blessing in disguise their moving in together. It will definitely accelerate their splitting up. Keep praying the hedge of protection prayer, in positive language! Love, PH
Holly said something similar about H needing to be my hero. I think you are right about being needed and appreciated. I have to remember that. I am sure that heroin is good at acting all helpless and needing him but that will get old, too. He used to love it when I worked along with him, too. Thanks for your support.
Cinder,
Check you email. I have something for you.
I am back to work tomorrow and so looking forward to it. I miss my students.
Have a good day.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
