I for one second the guys opinion: we are sometimes just very slow. It is good that you keep a low expectation. On the other hand, your H is trying. He even admitted he was trying. That is some pride to swallow... (sorry, another guy talk as we tend to stick to beer bottle and little jokes rather than admitting that we are smushy )
Wish you good night painting. I sensed that your H noticed your change. He will catch up...