Quote: it is not my job to pull h into the land of the living I've been doing that for 10 years I'm done trying to get him to live.
Agreed. What I was kind of meaning (which I guess wasn't very clear) is that when you begin to really detach and do things for LL, maybe he'll gravitate towards you a bit more. He'll see you doing X, Y, and Z and want to participate. Was this the LL when your H first came home and seemed to be attentive for a few weeks?
Quote: I always had a life...worked, went to college, had friends, went to parties, had parties, danced, sang, made new friends, worked out (roller blading and gym) etc...
Okay...I guess I questioned the "extent" to which you have done this because of something else you wrote:
Quote: it is funny that when I tell people I am insecure they don't believe me when I tell people I am shy they don't believe me. when I tell people that I feel anxious when going out to parties and social gatherings they don't believe me.
My point in saying this is that doing the opposite of these things is a 180 for you. So, right now with all the activities you've listed in other posts, it certainly sounds like you are doing 180s. Were you doing these 180s when your H came back, then kind of stopped...only to restart recently? Is it possible that you fell into some of the usual R patterns of the past?
